Graceful and Cultured Dining Etiquette

Have you ever thought: How can I eat this dish without making a mess?

Many of us at one time or another have had to cope with uneasiness — Am I eating this the right way? — while eating in front of others. To assuage this anxiety, we turned to food researcher Kubo Kanako for this article to get advice on graceful and cultured dining etiquette.

How can I eat this dish?

At somewhat formal dinners and other occasions, we want to enjoy our meals deliciously and with class. But this raises many questions: How can I eat this dish without looking clumsy and what parts can I eat? In this article, we’ll examine certain problematic dishes and teach you the tricks to eat them with flair.

One colorful dish served often at high-class ryotei Japanese restaurants and other fine dining establishments is shrimp. Shrimp, however, poses the problem of how to eat it gracefully, as it is easy to get your hands dirty. More to the point, how should you remove the head, is it okay to peel the shell with your hands, and can you eat the tip of the tail? Kubo kindly gave us pointers on the steps to eating shrimp.

“With boiled shrimp, you can eat everything but the hard shell at the head and tail. And if you are in a situation where it might be embarrassing to peel off every bit of the shell, you can always resort to eating the shell if it’s soft.” And when you don’t want to get your hands dirty while peeling the shell, it’s a good idea to use a kaishi paper sheet or paper napkin.

Food on skewers are a popular item served on many occasions. But if asked how to eat these dishes properly, it’s likely only a few people could answer with confidence. Kubo gave us easy-to-follow instructions. “Instead of holding the skewer in your right hand and bringing it directly to your mouth, hold it in your left hand and remove the pieces with your chopsticks first. Then you can eat the pieces more easily and gracefully.”

How to eat grilled whole fish with finesse

Another challenge for many is how to eat a grilled whole fish without making a mess. Part of the problem may be that people have few chances to learn how to eat grilled fish properly. A recent concern is that many kids dislike fish nowadays. Some reasons for this are that fish are hard to eat and contain bones. In order to eat grilled fish in a refined manner in front of others, and to teach kids how to eat fish properly, we asked Kubo for the best way to eat grilled whole fish.

How to hold a bowl of steamed egg custard

Chawanmushi [steamed egg custard] is often served at ryotei and other establishments as a substitute for soup. The custard’s consistency varies from restaurant to restaurant, and it is often soft and soupy. “Chawanmushi is sometimes too hot to hold the bowl directly with your hand. And when eating it with a spoon, it’s easy to make the mistake of using your hand as a kind of plate to catch drips. To eat chawanmushi gracefully, you need to lift the bowl with your hand. If it is too hot, use a kaishi sheet or a saucer to raise it up to eat,” Kubo advises.

In this article, Kubo kindly taught us the steps to eat problematic dishes properly. Once you have this etiquette down, you will be able eat without feeling self-conscious and better enjoy the flavors of the dishes. Try these methods for yourself and eat with grace and refinement.